My trek to be a better person has been moving at a good pace. I have been thinking long and hard about what else I could do to make myself a better person and help others. And I have some ideas that I would love to share with everyone.
The first thing is about time. Time is our biggest enemy, it never stops we can never get enough of it. SO we are forced to make decisions on how to use this limited resource. Many Celtic and Wicca based groups use the "Year and a Day" period for training people. And it is a good amount of time to use. There is a lot to learn in a year for all pagans. We should never stop learning, you stop learning you stop living. You only exist if you don't apply your mind. Some groups are very strict on the 366 days of learning and some are more flexible. I think that there has to be a great of flexibility of anyone that seeks to lead others.
Life is never easy, we have events that occur in our lives that take away from our studies. You might have been reading a book by Scott Cunningham , then all of a sudden something changed your time devoted to learning. Do we throw away all progress made and have to start on a new 'year and a day'? I think that wouldn't work. Most paths have 8 Sabbaths, 4 major and 4 minor. And since our Sabbaths are connected to the changing seasons that are the same duration. So I suggest dividing the year and a day into 4 quarters or 13 week periods. Have a self test or have your spiritual guide test you on what you were supposed to learn. If you pass then you can move on to the next quarter, if not go back and learn what you need to learn.
Why am I thinking about this? Because I have decided that if I am going to help others and work as a spiritual guide for others, I need to create a year and a day study program . And this would be a major task. I will learn from creating this system, plus I could help anyone that is seeking advice. Having something worked out on paper will work as a guideline for both people. I am still wanting to be a part of an open circle not a coven. I am willing to help anyone out. I just don't want people to think that I am their only person that they can talk to.
The idea that I had is that a person would start his/her training that day after a major Sabbath. Then on the next Sabbath they would present themselves with what they have created and what they learned by discussion. They would bring their BOS and other books with them and any tools that they made and explain why they are a certain way. Then their guide could ask a few questions and get a feeling of how the person is advancing. There can never be a formal test, because we all must follow out own path.
I had an idea of creating a code of ethics notebook in with my BOS. In this book I would add all the judgements that I make . The purpose is to hold myself accountable for the actions that I do. I am seeing too much flip flopping in the presidential election with Romney. And I think that by creating this notebook , it would strengthen my resolve in staying true to what I say and do. We all have our moments when we soften up our convictions. I would be making an oath to the book to uphold the ethics that I create in that book. This would be a good thing in helping others as well , because I will have some established rules and an explanation why I feel that way. I can't impose them on anyone, but if someone has a question on a certain subject I could discuss it with them. And that is what a person should do if they are going to be part of a community.
I have bought a briefcase that I am going to keep all my pagan papers in. I am trying to think of all of the functions ministers have. I am still working on my marriage ceremony speech. I have most of the pre-martial counseling class worked out. I haven't figured out how to handle a funeral, I have been to so few in my life, I have a lot of research to do there.
Being a spiritual guide is also more than just knowing information. It is about interacting with others, developing a personality that can cross bridges and through the barriers that people have. I know people that are are very intelligent and socially dumb, and vice versa. So learning to talk with people and not just talking at people is a skill that must be learned and applied to everyday life. Being social doesn't mean that you have to be nice all the time. There is a time where tough love is needed. There is a time when what you believe in must come before having a friend. To be a spiritual guide sometimes we must take a course of actions to get noticed and to let others know that they are not alone.
This brings me back to the Robert Frost poem. I think that we must go through some ordeals to get stronger. We must experience life to understand life. I am a strong person and I want to help others. There are people out there that have taken the road less traveled and got lost along the way. I am walking the road less traveled and I want to help those also on the road as well. And in the end it will make all the difference.
Wednesday, October 31, 2012
Monday, October 22, 2012
To be something more..
We all must seek to be a better person today than what we were yesterday. In what way we are better is up to each and everyone of us. My changes in life have been going very well. I am seeing the vast contrast in the person I am today and the person I was 5 years ago. I am not even close in being the mean person that I was . When I became an Ordain minister through the Universal Life Church there was two simple rules. Do the right thing and spread love. I am going to do the right thing, but I am going to spread my type of love. If you have read my previous blogs you would see that I am not a 'love and light' type of person. But what I will give is support to those that need it or want it. I have a former co-worker that I was working on giving him some helpful support. And I hope that I was able to get through to him some of the basics.
I have been wanting to be something more than who I am today. The thoughts of leading others to a better life have been bouncing around in my head. It feels good to help others. I want to help other people on their path, not convert anyone, just help those that are wanting some assistance. But to lead , I need to have something to offer people . I have a great deal of advice, experiences, and wisdom. I have been trying to figure out a basis for a foundation of advancement for others. And in return I will learn and become a better person as well.
But this desire is more than a pagan course. I would like to help others in other areas of life. Telling people about their work ethic and responsibilities to the world around them. Why? Well I have complained many of times about how ministers refuse to give real world advice to their people. They teach of scripture, but not of the world around them. Balance is something that must be maintained in so many aspects of life, so many different aspects of life must be discussed and learned from.
The marines have a shirt that says.."Lead , follow, or get out of the way." There are times in life that we have to do those three things. When something is important to you, you must take control and lead to success. When you see others working for a just cause you must follow their lead and assist them into achieving their goal. When people are doing something that doesn't effect you , you must learn tolerance and get out of the way.
I was told that I would similar to a life coach. And maybe that would be the best way to describe what I want to do. But I want to be the teacher of people and touch people's lives in a positive way. I don't want to be the High Priest of a coven or grove. I want to be a part of a large open circle and build off of each other. A community of people respecting each other as equals . So I am devoting some time in building a foundation for a series of lessons that I as a minister would need. The first part would be writing done a program for pre-marital counseling and marriage support classes. And then research some grief counseling lessons to build a program for losing a loved one.
In the end , I will be a better person. Now look in the mirror and ask yourself one question. What can I do today to make myself a better person? Then ask yourself, Why haven't I done that already. We set or own limitations. Others only have control over us if we let them. Don't let anyone tell you that you can never be better. All you have to do is take that first step.
I have been wanting to be something more than who I am today. The thoughts of leading others to a better life have been bouncing around in my head. It feels good to help others. I want to help other people on their path, not convert anyone, just help those that are wanting some assistance. But to lead , I need to have something to offer people . I have a great deal of advice, experiences, and wisdom. I have been trying to figure out a basis for a foundation of advancement for others. And in return I will learn and become a better person as well.
But this desire is more than a pagan course. I would like to help others in other areas of life. Telling people about their work ethic and responsibilities to the world around them. Why? Well I have complained many of times about how ministers refuse to give real world advice to their people. They teach of scripture, but not of the world around them. Balance is something that must be maintained in so many aspects of life, so many different aspects of life must be discussed and learned from.
The marines have a shirt that says.."Lead , follow, or get out of the way." There are times in life that we have to do those three things. When something is important to you, you must take control and lead to success. When you see others working for a just cause you must follow their lead and assist them into achieving their goal. When people are doing something that doesn't effect you , you must learn tolerance and get out of the way.
I was told that I would similar to a life coach. And maybe that would be the best way to describe what I want to do. But I want to be the teacher of people and touch people's lives in a positive way. I don't want to be the High Priest of a coven or grove. I want to be a part of a large open circle and build off of each other. A community of people respecting each other as equals . So I am devoting some time in building a foundation for a series of lessons that I as a minister would need. The first part would be writing done a program for pre-marital counseling and marriage support classes. And then research some grief counseling lessons to build a program for losing a loved one.
In the end , I will be a better person. Now look in the mirror and ask yourself one question. What can I do today to make myself a better person? Then ask yourself, Why haven't I done that already. We set or own limitations. Others only have control over us if we let them. Don't let anyone tell you that you can never be better. All you have to do is take that first step.
Saturday, October 6, 2012
Creating a code of Ethics
In my last blog I talked about choosing ethics over friends and vice versa. I realized that some of us don't have an established set of ethics and some probably don't have anything except the very simplest figured out. We need a code of ethics for ourselves to be better people. Now I am not suggesting a code of ethics that fits all people, that would be impossible. I am talking about creating a code of ethics that is for you, and only you.
First step is deciding what type of person you are now and the person you want to be. I am a person at a crossroads, I am trying to be a valued part of the pagan community. I am a currently a person that was angrier and stubborn as a bull, but is now more open and understanding to others. I have learned a great deal about paganism and I have so much more to learn. But a code of ethics is something that just doesn't pertain to paganism, it is about our whole lives. I am an honest person, I voice my opinion, I have worked with the same company for 20 years. I am a diovorced father of two. there are many little things and big things that makes us who we are. I would like to be an Author, Spiritual advisor, politically active, smarter, trusted, and happy.
Second step is figuring out who has inspired you or affected you in a positive manner. Write a list of these people and why they affected you. Please use historically correct people if you can. If you workj with other people and discuss matters like I am doing here, some people will find it hard to take you serious if you list an anime character is a ethical source. Yes I have grown inspiration from fictional characters, but I will seperate my views of fantasy and history. There are people that have molded us into the people we are today. Keeping them alive in our thoughts and writings is a great way to honor them.
So grab a piece of paper and start writing down things that are important ethics to have and go into detail. Also please write them in a positive manner. These will become your commandments, and when you violate them , you are sinning to yourself. I know that many will disagree with that, but building your own ethics and following them is what developes ourselves into better people.
1. I shall be honest
2. I shall stand for what I believe in. ( Winston Churchill said " You have enemies, good. That means you stood up for something sometime in you life.")
3. I will voice my opinion. (Winston Churchill taught me the power of a mouse in one of his speeches."
4. I will do the right thing.
5. I will show respect for other people's beliefs. But tolerence can only be mutual.
6. I will follow the laws of the land.
7. I will always be me.
So there are my first seven. There are many more, some major and some minor. These mean alot to me. I shall be honest, because if I can't be honest with others, why should they be honest with me. I will stand up for what I believe in, too many stand aside and let the wrongs occur unchecked. Someone has to say no. Voicing my opinion, some of you know I am very good at that, How can anyone know how you feel if you don't open your mouth. Doing the right thing, is very simple, if you know it to be right , just do it then.
Number 5 is a harder one to explain. I have my beliefs and everyone else has their own views. I might not like or understand some other religious belief, but I will respect that person's right to follow his/her heart. I will take what I know of other religions at try to understand how the other person feels. As long as the other person doesn't attack my beliefs I will not attack other person's beliefs. Only when both people respect the other's view can tolerence be established. And with tolerence there can come co-existence.
Number 6 is a touchy one as well. I will follow the laws of the land. And that means ALL laws. There will be no exceptions to this. That means I will not speed and I will wear my seatbelt. I will not try to justify an excuse into breaking a law. Some people say that it is alright to smoke pot, it is a harmless drug. But with my stance, it is still illegal for a reason, I will follow the laws.
Wintston Churchill motivated me alot. The quote from above also has a different message in it. You can't always be everyone's friend. In many groups that I belonged to, I am told that everone should just get along. Each person is unique, and so we all have different views on various topics. Sometimes this differences will cause a conflict. That is a part of life. To get along with everyone like some people think, would require us to be silent sometimes and to give up a part of who we are. Churchill was strongly opposed to appeasement before World War 2. And that is what we are asked to do when we ask asked to 'just get along'. It is our differences that make us who we are and if we can work through them it makes us as a whole stronger. So I will be me.
I talked about breaking our personnal commandments. When we do this the punishment is simple, you have to look at yourself in the mirror and admit you screwed up. If you know you are following your personal commandments you will be able to look in the mirror with pride.
Your person commandments can be usede to improve yourself. I have one about reading at least 100 pages a week. This is about discovering yourself and bettering yourself. Only when you know yourself and what you want in life can you move forward.
First step is deciding what type of person you are now and the person you want to be. I am a person at a crossroads, I am trying to be a valued part of the pagan community. I am a currently a person that was angrier and stubborn as a bull, but is now more open and understanding to others. I have learned a great deal about paganism and I have so much more to learn. But a code of ethics is something that just doesn't pertain to paganism, it is about our whole lives. I am an honest person, I voice my opinion, I have worked with the same company for 20 years. I am a diovorced father of two. there are many little things and big things that makes us who we are. I would like to be an Author, Spiritual advisor, politically active, smarter, trusted, and happy.
Second step is figuring out who has inspired you or affected you in a positive manner. Write a list of these people and why they affected you. Please use historically correct people if you can. If you workj with other people and discuss matters like I am doing here, some people will find it hard to take you serious if you list an anime character is a ethical source. Yes I have grown inspiration from fictional characters, but I will seperate my views of fantasy and history. There are people that have molded us into the people we are today. Keeping them alive in our thoughts and writings is a great way to honor them.
So grab a piece of paper and start writing down things that are important ethics to have and go into detail. Also please write them in a positive manner. These will become your commandments, and when you violate them , you are sinning to yourself. I know that many will disagree with that, but building your own ethics and following them is what developes ourselves into better people.
1. I shall be honest
2. I shall stand for what I believe in. ( Winston Churchill said " You have enemies, good. That means you stood up for something sometime in you life.")
3. I will voice my opinion. (Winston Churchill taught me the power of a mouse in one of his speeches."
4. I will do the right thing.
5. I will show respect for other people's beliefs. But tolerence can only be mutual.
6. I will follow the laws of the land.
7. I will always be me.
So there are my first seven. There are many more, some major and some minor. These mean alot to me. I shall be honest, because if I can't be honest with others, why should they be honest with me. I will stand up for what I believe in, too many stand aside and let the wrongs occur unchecked. Someone has to say no. Voicing my opinion, some of you know I am very good at that, How can anyone know how you feel if you don't open your mouth. Doing the right thing, is very simple, if you know it to be right , just do it then.
Number 5 is a harder one to explain. I have my beliefs and everyone else has their own views. I might not like or understand some other religious belief, but I will respect that person's right to follow his/her heart. I will take what I know of other religions at try to understand how the other person feels. As long as the other person doesn't attack my beliefs I will not attack other person's beliefs. Only when both people respect the other's view can tolerence be established. And with tolerence there can come co-existence.
Number 6 is a touchy one as well. I will follow the laws of the land. And that means ALL laws. There will be no exceptions to this. That means I will not speed and I will wear my seatbelt. I will not try to justify an excuse into breaking a law. Some people say that it is alright to smoke pot, it is a harmless drug. But with my stance, it is still illegal for a reason, I will follow the laws.
Wintston Churchill motivated me alot. The quote from above also has a different message in it. You can't always be everyone's friend. In many groups that I belonged to, I am told that everone should just get along. Each person is unique, and so we all have different views on various topics. Sometimes this differences will cause a conflict. That is a part of life. To get along with everyone like some people think, would require us to be silent sometimes and to give up a part of who we are. Churchill was strongly opposed to appeasement before World War 2. And that is what we are asked to do when we ask asked to 'just get along'. It is our differences that make us who we are and if we can work through them it makes us as a whole stronger. So I will be me.
I talked about breaking our personnal commandments. When we do this the punishment is simple, you have to look at yourself in the mirror and admit you screwed up. If you know you are following your personal commandments you will be able to look in the mirror with pride.
Your person commandments can be usede to improve yourself. I have one about reading at least 100 pages a week. This is about discovering yourself and bettering yourself. Only when you know yourself and what you want in life can you move forward.
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